Expectation vs. Reality: What No One Tells You About Becoming a Mom

Before becoming a mom, many of us carry a picture in our minds—a version of motherhood built from childhood dreams, cultural narratives, and curated social media posts. But what happens when real life doesn’t match the picture? In this episode, Vanessa gets honest about the gap between expectations and reality, not in parenting—but in the motherhood experience itself. With warmth, humor, and grounded reflection, she explores what it really means to let go of perfection, make peace with the mess, and embrace the version of motherhood that’s unfolding right in front of you.


TUNE IN TO LEARN:
Why so many moms feel blindsided by the reality of motherhood
How to process grief over the version of life you imagined
The emotional rollercoaster of adjusting to your “new normal”
Mindful ways to reframe guilt, comparison, and unmet expectations
The power of compassion and presence in your motherhood journey


TAKEAWAY MESSAGE:
Motherhood isn’t a checklist or a Pinterest board—it’s a lived experience, full of mess, beauty, contradiction, and growth. Let go of the picture-perfect version, and open your heart to the one you’re living today. There’s room for joy, connection, and presence—even when the laundry’s not done. You’re not behind. You’re not failing. You’re doing the work. And you’re always free to be mindful.



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